Are You A Model Or A Critic?

Do you tend to tell people what they should do, or be an active model of that change? Making that single shift can make all the difference.

"Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic." ~ Stephen Covey

Do you find it easier to tell someone else how to change than to change yourself?

Or catch yourself pondering ways to convince others "see the light" once you've discovered it?

Or simply wonder how you - one person - can make a difference, especially when an issue seems overwhelming?

Whenever I am in one of these places, I remember Gandhi's profound suggestion to be the change we wish to see in the world. We can talk, teach, advise, suggest, and at times wear ourselves out spouting wisdom. But unless we are living, breathing examples of the change we wish to see, we will never be very effective.

This week, model the behavior you'd like to see in others.

Wish your coworker would stop complaining constantly? Make it a point to consistently speak in uplifting, positive ways.

Want others to work proactively rather than waiting until the last minute? Demonstrate how beneficial this is by your calm demeanor and focused productivity.

Long to be part of a supportive, positive culture? Be a supportive, positive role model.

Teaching, advising, and lecturing all have their role, but if someone must choose between what you say and what you do, chances are they will look more closely at what you do. Do your part to be the model for change.